For our society to change the future of humankind into a non violent world, eliminating senseless war, and embracing peaceful ambitions of health and education and opportunity for all, it will take a generational paradigm shift in understanding. Understanding that nurturing the child’s spirit from birth to five with utmost respect will ultimately make all the difference in our world’s future.
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]]>it’s not how to discipline them but to look at what their “bad” behavior is trying to communicate. he is focused on how to teach lessons long before a crime has been committed which tells me it will be very challenging for him to focus on what the child is clumsily trying to say and instead on how he can control, teach, hurt the child.
]]>Hi Gauri! Thank you for the boost of confidence and support. I can promise you that you will never regret following Magda Gerber’s approach and I plan to be here to support you all the way. It felt the same to me when I first learned about it…so common sensical and “right”. Cheers!
]]>I’m writing from Chennai, India. I’m relatively new to your website. I stumbled upon it while trying to find more about Jane Healy. I LOVE both you and your website! 🙂 I don’t have children yet but planning on having them soon. I’m doing lots of research before we start trying. My baby will definitely be a RIE baby. Everything about RIE is so common sensical and still I keep on having aha moments while reading your beautifully written posts. I hope you never stop doing what you do, or at least till my baby is all grown up. 🙂
]]>I think the “manual labor” punishment may come in useful when the child is, say, 15 and defies some convenant of trust like not coming home from a friend’s house on time. Maybe then they can choose to wash Dad’s car sunday morning as a way to help them meditate on their breach of agreement and as a sign of good faith that they know they made a mistake, but for a toddler or even the young child, I cannot see it being very applicable!
]]>Wow, Safra, that gave me goosebumps. Thank you for sharing! You’ve done well!
]]>Just today, thanks to not quite two years of positive reinforcement and building a life framework of understanding, empathy and trust with our not-quite-two year old, our son unintentionally hurt me. On his own,he made the choice to stop what he was doing, come over to me (I needed a second to turn away, breathe and calm myself…it REALLY hurt) and say, “(I’m) sorry”.
I was shocked, awed, and truly appreciative of this amazing gesture of understanding from my baby.
I guess he is not my baby anymore, but truly turning into a boy. All of what you have just written in this wonderful post, and your other posts on discipline, have led up to that spectacular moment earlier this evening. As always, thank you for your advice, and keep it coming!
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