That’s the two points I struggle with. I can handle these situations one way when I’m at home and have time. When we need to get moving- making something physically happen is where I struggle. She’s been primed. She’s had time. She knows what to expect… but mum just one more thing I simply must do or desolving into screaming and I hate yous. Can you kindly buy physically make a 5 year old get dressed??
The second one is in public and what you allow your kid to do to others- because most people get extremely offended or upset when getting screamed at or witnessing a kid have a huge melt down. Or other kids get plain scared or nervous or upset themselves.

Me too!

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I understand that yelling can be a release for our kids, and I’m fine with the yelling (by the way, I highly recommend Loop sound reducing ear plugs!) However, my 5 year old son escalates the more he is told no, and he becomes physical. He throws food, he overturns chairs, he smashes objects, and then he starts hitting, kicking, and biting. We try to validate his feelings and get him to take deep breaths, hug himself, give him a hug, etc. but it just makes him worse.

How do I let him get his feelings out without destroying our house, physically hurting us, and upsetting his younger siblings?

So I understand that yes let’s set boundaries and roll out the red carpet but what if you need to go somewhere? Or leaving the playground for example, is a classic one. Roll out the red carpet for feelings, but how can you manhandle a strong and large five year old or over, into a car seat? I certainly cant, I can’t physically do it without harming her.

What would you do in that situation?

I would love for help with this as well!