https://www.janetlansbury.com/2017/03/no-self-confidence/ elevating child care Sun, 15 Jan 2023 20:35:05 +0000 hourly 1 https://www.janetlansbury.com/2017/03/no-self-confidence/comment-page-1/#comment-132494 Sun, 15 Jan 2023 20:35:05 +0000 http://www.janetlansbury.com/?p=17730#comment-132494 Thank you for this. My 3 y/o old struggles with confidence a lot but in a slightly different way. She will say “I CAN’T DO THIS” all the time when I know she can (like something very ridiculous like grabbing a toy in front of her). I ask “what seems to be an issue” to that she proceedes with “I just can’t do it because I am Emma. Emma can’t do things”. She needs me to pick her up and carry her to another room because she says she can’t and if I don’t do it she will say I don’t love her and don’t help her and many other very similar examples. It’s truly breaking my heart and I know I over-did it with entertaining her and helping her between ages 1-2.5y/o however I never said she can’t do something in a way of being critical. I don’t know how to turn it around anymore, I never pressure her really but she becomes so distressed when I lovingly place a boundary and tell her do it herself (pick that toy for example) that she regresses even further in her behaviour. I feel like I have messed up my child forever as she believes she can’t do anything herself.

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