Comments on: How We Got Our Daughter Back

By: Teri

Teri — Tue, 13 Mar 2018 22:25:11 +0000

Hi Janet,
Tried to sign up for the free video series but the link didn’t work. Is it no longer available?
I am having similar troubles with my 2.5 year old son. The little ones are 9 months old now (fraternal twins) and he sometimes gets aggressive, hits them, kicks them. I understand what is going on within him, but I am not sure what my reaction should be. Sometimes there are no causes or antecedents, he just goes and hits or kicks. How can I sportscast and verbalize something I don’t even understand.

By: Maria

Maria — Sat, 14 Oct 2017 02:50:06 +0000

In reply to rick ackerly. I am now learning to not judge "why" my three year old behaves the way she does sometimes, thanks to one of Janet's sessions recordings. I had always tried to accept and acknowledge the feelings but I found myself wondering what the triggers were. I realized that in order to fully accept without judgment, I had to let go of the why's and causes and explainations. So liberating.

By: rick ackerly

rick ackerly — Thu, 12 Oct 2017 21:23:24 +0000

“I knew this was her coming to terms with the huge shift in her family life and verbalized this to her…” Great. And it seems you were right, and you got good results. AND it’s a good idea not to focus on wondering “why” a child is behaving the way they are. Their definition of a problem is more important than ours, and THEIR experimenting with new behaviors is more important for their brain and character development than OUR solution of their problem.

By: Christina @ montessoriishmom.com

Christina @ montessoriishmom.com — Thu, 12 Oct 2017 11:07:08 +0000

I love this article. I only have one child right now, but we’re currently considering when to try for a second, and I will definitely keep this in mind when the time comes. Thank you!