Comments on: Independent Play, Bonding, and Setting Limits https://www.janetlansbury.com/2017/10/independent-play-bonding-and-setting-limits/ elevating child care Mon, 21 Nov 2022 11:38:08 +0000 hourly 1 By: janet https://www.janetlansbury.com/2017/10/independent-play-bonding-and-setting-limits/comment-page-1/#comment-130635 Mon, 30 Aug 2021 18:06:15 +0000 http://www.janetlansbury.com/?p=17932#comment-130635 In reply to Anonymous.

No, there is no such thing as too much independent play when a child chooses this! I would urge your husband to read a few of the gazillion studies on the power of child=directed play as a learning tool. There is no better education for her. Well done!

]]> By: Anonymous https://www.janetlansbury.com/2017/10/independent-play-bonding-and-setting-limits/comment-page-1/#comment-130634 Mon, 30 Aug 2021 15:36:12 +0000 http://www.janetlansbury.com/?p=17932#comment-130634 My daughter is 2.5yo and i feel she is really good at independent play. She will play for an hour often by herself several times a day. She invents her own play often with things around the house, i don’t mind her using the things she can reach as she wishes, there are a few off limit things and she knows about them and doesn’t usually play with them. She will call me when she wants me or needs help or will come and get me. I find this pretty convenient and i am proud that i have been able to support her in her interests however my husband is a bit more critical and says that she’s just running around not learning anything and that i need to organize activities her. We do lots of practical life things together when she is interested and things like art, i have a bit high so i don’t have coloring on the walls, and she will ask when she wants to do them. My question is, is there such a thing at this age as too much independent play?

]]> By: Kat https://www.janetlansbury.com/2017/10/independent-play-bonding-and-setting-limits/comment-page-1/#comment-129800 Thu, 17 Dec 2020 20:17:57 +0000 http://www.janetlansbury.com/?p=17932#comment-129800 I’m so, so happy I found this article. My 22 mo old daughter is obsessed with books and will sit and read them with me for hours. Since quarantine started and we can’t go out as much, it’s much worse. I’ve felt guilty about setting limits because they’re, well… books, and I definitely don’t want to discourage her from reading. My family even discouraged me from limiting her but they don’t understand how much this wears me out. Thank you for writing this.

]]> By: Iulia https://www.janetlansbury.com/2017/10/independent-play-bonding-and-setting-limits/comment-page-1/#comment-128228 Mon, 25 Nov 2019 11:03:28 +0000 http://www.janetlansbury.com/?p=17932#comment-128228 Hi Janet, I am so happy to have discovered you! I have a question for you and I really hope you could answer me. I have a 22 months toddler whose only play, lately, is talking to or showing things to his stuffed animals/dolls/any object (through me replying to him, obviously). I’m not sure if I should encourage (considering this is his “independent play”, since he is not talking to me, but to the animals) or discourage this type of play (as it can sometimes be bothering to me, as I have to keep answering him). Also, everything he does, he does to “show off” to them (dancing, painting, anything) and if there is no one watching/replying, he is not interested in doing that anymore. I’m afraid this might feed his external motivation, but also, I don’t know how to make him not want their attention anymore. Also, what is your opinion about Montessori activities? I often feel guilty I don’t have the time to prepare them for him and that he might miss out in his development. I would be very grateful for an answer.
Greetings from Romania!
Iulia

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