Comments on: Getting Your Partner on the Same Page with Respectful Discipline

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Mon, 25 Jan 2021 20:45:24 +0000

In reply to janet.

We have tried that, but the psychologist my husband goes to only seems to reinforce his beliefs… I.e. rewards/consequences, misunderstands respectful parenting as permissive, and discounts the current research in nueropsychology by Dr. Delahook, Dr. Siegel, among others.

I just don’t know what to do anymore.

By: Heather

Heather — Sat, 02 Nov 2019 14:11:44 +0000

In reply to Hannah. I am also curious to see the answer to this comment!

By: Hannah

Hannah — Mon, 01 Jul 2019 17:11:00 +0000

I’m just wondering if a partner is harsh at times to a child or raising their voice, how do you respond? Do you leave them to carry on and process it after with the child or do you give your child a way to set effective boundaries in the moment? Do you set a boundary with the partner for them?

By: Cheila

Cheila — Wed, 04 Jul 2018 11:10:01 +0000

I don’t know if I can leave questions here, but I’m hoping maybe you can direct me to more reading or listening material. I don’t have children yet, but me and my partner are planing to. I believe we agree in most things when it comes to education, but there’s just one thing that really concerns me. As a child, my parents never hit me and I think they did the right thing. However, both my partner and his older brother were hit by their mom as kids. It wasn’t too serious or aggressive, just a way to discipline them and set limits. Now he believes it’s unavoidable to hit children at least a few times while raising them. I completely disagree! How can I get him to understand that hitting is never the solution and there are ways to deal with problems that are more gentle and effective?
Thanks!

By: janet

janet — Sat, 31 Mar 2018 17:54:37 +0000

In reply to katie. I'm so sorry to hear that you are in such a difficult situation, Katie. Would it be possible to reach out to a relationship counselor of some kind?

By: katie

katie — Sat, 31 Mar 2018 11:13:58 +0000

Unfortunately dad is not on the same page as I am and I feel it negatively affects my son, hugely. I feel like everything I do is worthless as dad has a different approach and the way dad responds simply makes everything harder on me as I have to fix all of the upset caused. I have to deal with mt son lashing out from the stress of a toxic parental figure and the conflict in styles. I wish I could just let it go and let it play out but for me dad is not seeming to ever come around and he continues to take over with his ways so that nothing is ever progressing with behavior. I wish I was doing this all alone sometimes, then I would not be so defeated and hopeless.

By: Miriam Blau

Miriam Blau — Wed, 31 Jan 2018 18:11:34 +0000

Dear Janet
As I read this podcast I was so touched by your sensitivity, by your compassion.
You are so right in your approach.
I studied all kinds of things and when I came home with” You have to listen to what I learned today…amazing..you have to try it out.”. ..my husband did not want to hear about it…..

Thank you for your generousity in sharing this great wisdom. I bought both of your books. I read and reread them.
We are having a summer course in RIE in Israel.
Can’t wait.
Miriam
Educational councelor in daycare centers in Israel

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Wed, 31 Jan 2018 17:50:19 +0000

This was really such great advice. I can really relate to this parent’s journey. Modeling is always the best teacher. I’ve been realizing so much lately that, in relationships, letting go of the need for another to be different than they are -REALLY letting go – allows space for acceptance and in that I think people get the room they need to become the best possible versions of themselves. Thanks for sharing your wisdom and helping us tap into our own.