Comments on: Never Too Late to Become the Parent You Want To Be https://www.janetlansbury.com/2019/02/never-too-late-to-become-the-parent-you-want-to-be/ elevating child care Wed, 16 Aug 2023 04:13:46 +0000 hourly 1 By: Jenna Gonzalez https://www.janetlansbury.com/2019/02/never-too-late-to-become-the-parent-you-want-to-be/comment-page-1/#comment-132900 Wed, 16 Aug 2023 04:13:46 +0000 https://www.janetlansbury.com/?p=19382#comment-132900 I’m a bad parent.

]]> By: Irene https://www.janetlansbury.com/2019/02/never-too-late-to-become-the-parent-you-want-to-be/comment-page-1/#comment-127223 Thu, 14 Mar 2019 04:13:25 +0000 https://www.janetlansbury.com/?p=19382#comment-127223 Janet hello
I just got your info from my grief therapist.. she said she really recommends I read your posts ..
I don’t know if you can recommend or advise on my situation?
I have a 29 year old daughter and I feel she is always disappointed in my responses .. even when she asks me for some advice .. it’s akwaus an argument or “ mom please stop I have to go now !! “ and hangs up the phone . She is very mature and self sufficient and responsible.. & I m very proud of her .. ( she is an accomplished Lawer ) but she is sooo jerky and short w me and I feel I m walking on eggshells when I talk too about anything..
She is the only daughter I have .. and I want a god relationship w her and don’t know what to do .. I feel like I m her daughter and better not “misbehave “ or she want talk to me at all !!! We are on different coasts east and west ..
when she calls me I run and drop everything.. it’s usually 5 min or less and than ;
Mom I m in garage! I have to go now ! What don’t you understood mom !! I have to go !! Buy !”
Disappointed mom
Who out my life into this child !
🙁

]]> By: Mindy https://www.janetlansbury.com/2019/02/never-too-late-to-become-the-parent-you-want-to-be/comment-page-1/#comment-127116 Wed, 13 Feb 2019 13:27:20 +0000 https://www.janetlansbury.com/?p=19382#comment-127116 In reply to janet.

I guess I felt like his expression of anger and frustration was too violent. I can also understand his feeling at the time, but just feel like outbursts like that aren’t the best way to handle things. Not sure how to coach in these moments.

]]> By: Sam https://www.janetlansbury.com/2019/02/never-too-late-to-become-the-parent-you-want-to-be/comment-page-1/#comment-127112 Mon, 11 Feb 2019 20:30:14 +0000 https://www.janetlansbury.com/?p=19382#comment-127112 Thank you for this podcast (and for all the work you do). It’s very freeing. Although my girls are younger, I’ve had similar feelings to this parent because I came across your information around the time my eldest was 3. I had similar thoughts that perhaps I had damaged her with my learned and emotionally unhealthy parenting style at the time. She’s now 6 and we also have a very strong willed, emotionally expressive and sensitive 4 year old and since learning more about your approach, we have tried really hard to change our parenting. While I still have periods of time where I ‘fall off the wagon’ and revert back to old patterns which I was taught from my parents, I find repetition of your articles and podcasts really help to get me back on track. It’s amazing how deeply entrenched how we were parented is. Nonetheless, it’s such a relief to know that it’s never too late. Thank you Janet. If only everyone followed yours (and Magda’s) work. What a different place the world would be.

]]> By: janet https://www.janetlansbury.com/2019/02/never-too-late-to-become-the-parent-you-want-to-be/comment-page-1/#comment-127092 Wed, 06 Feb 2019 16:05:19 +0000 https://www.janetlansbury.com/?p=19382#comment-127092 In reply to Mindy.

Hi Mindy! To me that sounds typical and not inappropriate, but I can understand that this wasn’t pleasant for you. It can be hard not to take these outbursts personally. How would you have preferred that he handle this anger? Not sure that I would have shouted and slammed, but I can relate to his feeling! 🙂

]]> By: Mindy https://www.janetlansbury.com/2019/02/never-too-late-to-become-the-parent-you-want-to-be/comment-page-1/#comment-127091 Wed, 06 Feb 2019 14:21:41 +0000 https://www.janetlansbury.com/?p=19382#comment-127091 I really identify with this mother. I’m wondering how to deal with anger that seems to be inappropriately expressed. My 16 year old son was running late, he forgot something and slipped and fell on the ice on his way back in. Before he left again he was shouting about our “stupid driveway” and then slammed the door really hard. How do I let him express anger? I felt like this response was very inappropriate especially in front of his younger sisters. Am I wrong to feel this way? I feel so confused about how handle anger like this.

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