Comments on: Respectful Discipline In Action (Seeing Is Believing)

By: Sticklebricks

Sticklebricks — Sun, 22 Apr 2018 09:20:55 +0000

I was watching this (“Respect is contagious: RIE babies”) and it struck me – how Janet simply offered the wet wash cloth to each child and they put their hands on it. She didn’t say anything and if a child only touched the cloth minimally – she didn’t grab their hand or force her hand shut on theirs to clean the child’s hand a bit further or ‘make’ them participate if they pulled their hand away. I have previously read articles on RIE that speak about cleaning hands but now I feel like am ‘missing’ something so I’d like to hear some more thoughts about hand wiping from a RIE perspective. I also, would like to know this: when children first come to a Parent/Infant class for the first few weeks and are not used to this method of hand washing what words (if any) were said to them when the cloth is offered?

By: Sticklebricks

Sticklebricks — Sat, 21 Apr 2018 21:46:49 +0000

I like the clear but kind tone you use in the youtube clip when you spoke to the girl climbing over the table (although I can’t quite make out the first bit) and was wondering what a parent could say to a toddler who has put a foot on the a table whilst they sat eating their lunch? (other than “Please put your foot down”).

By: Emma

Emma — Wed, 15 Jul 2015 03:55:12 +0000

In reply to Sara. And I highly recommend Janet's books too Sara! Lifechanging (for everyone in our home!)

By: janet

janet — Sat, 29 Nov 2014 19:10:48 +0000

In reply to Bettina.

Hmmm… I would try to perceive this positively…as quality time…like dining out with a loved one at a restaurant. This time together is JUST as valid as play…or anything else you might do together. Giving her this time in your presence should fill her up, so that you can take care of some other things for yourself while she plays. You may still need to assert your boundary, of course, while she expresses displeasure. But at least you will be able to do so “guilt-free”, because you really have given her high quality, connected time.

By: janet

janet — Sat, 29 Nov 2014 19:06:15 +0000

In reply to Teacher Tom. Thanks, Tom!

By: Bettina

Bettina — Fri, 14 Feb 2014 08:25:08 +0000

I think this is all wonderful and I have been following these principles with my girl from the beginning. At least I have been trying to to the best of my abilities. What I struggle with is staying attentive throughout an entire meal. My girl (now 18 months) loves eating and really takes her time. I love that about her, but it’s hard for me to stay attentive for 30 to 45 minutes for one meal. Any thoughts on that?

By: janet

janet — Mon, 03 Feb 2014 20:46:47 +0000

In reply to Diane. Diane, it is up to the adult to decide how eating will go... Once children are able to achieve sitting independently, they are also ready to learn to sit while they eat, but only if we make this expectation clear and consistent.

By: Diane

Diane — Mon, 15 Jul 2013 04:19:49 +0000

Curious as to how this plays out with 2 year olds that do not want to stay still? My daughter was brought up with baby led eating, so she moderates her food amount very well, but is not great at sitting still at the table? Any suggestions?

By: Janet Johnson

Janet Johnson — Mon, 15 Jul 2013 03:50:36 +0000

I love this! Thank you! It, like many of your comments, is applicable to all preschoolers, not just infants and toddlers. All of our littlest people are caught in a world where they are treated with less respect than we require them to give others. My problem is getting parents of 3 and 4 year old’s to watch and appropriate the strategies here. Simply because many of your articles talk about infants and toddlers, they don’t think the content applies to them, so they skip right over them! Argh!

By: janet

janet — Wed, 20 Feb 2013 22:15:46 +0000

In reply to Julie. Thank you, Julie. Yes, I do. And also, many of the same ideas apply. What kind of information are you looking for?