Comments on: Teaching Children to Respect Personal Boundaries by Asserting Our Own

By: Shauna

Shauna — Thu, 18 Jul 2019 19:44:36 +0000

Hi – thank you, as always this post hit home. My 2 yo has annoying habit of touching my face or arm and I have definitely been sending mixed signals. Part of my problem and why I let him, because when he gets irritated with me stopping him, he turns around a picks a cut he has. He has actually turned a small cut into a massive scar on his cheek, or a hangnail on his finger into an infection and I don’t know how to stop him from annoying me but also stop him from hurting himself.

By: janet

janet — Mon, 01 Apr 2019 13:58:45 +0000

In reply to Nina.

Hi Nina – are you stopping him from coming close to you that way? I’m not understanding how you are not able to put your hands in the way to prevent him even touching you on the stomach, etc. If he’s trying this while on your lap, do not let him on your lap. Don’t let yourself be a victim. It’s not good for either of you.

By: janet

janet — Mon, 01 Apr 2019 13:57:50 +0000

In reply to Nina.

By: Nina

Nina — Mon, 01 Apr 2019 12:40:13 +0000

Hi, I have a similar issue with my 2.5 year old constantly grabbing my stomach (under my shirt)… I feel like I have done all of the above for months now, and he still is not stopping. He’s not angry or even laughing, he just will not stop trying to put his hands up my shirt and grab my stomach every second of every day. So what can I do now?

By: Tracey Snopovs

Tracey Snopovs — Thu, 28 Feb 2019 19:59:30 +0000

This was a really intuitive and thought provoking reply. I wasnt going to read it because my children are far beyond breastfeeding age but what great words for developing ideas about consent and provoking to me about how I deal with conflict and clarity.

By: janet

janet — Thu, 28 Feb 2019 15:03:01 +0000

In reply to Sierra. Thank you, Sierra! Yes, I could see that happening that we might need to move away, although it's helpful to give children the message that we aren't intimidated by their behavior.

By: Sierra

Sierra — Thu, 28 Feb 2019 00:01:34 +0000

Loved this podcast, as always! Would there ever come a point when you would walk away from your child, if they were kicking you or touching you in a way you don’t like? Even if you keep stopping them, if the seem kind of out of control, would it be appropriate to calmly leave the room in order to not allow them to touch you? Especially for a bigger or older child?