Comments on: Navigating the Playground with a Child Who Seems Too Physical, Shy, Huggy, or Bossy https://www.janetlansbury.com/2021/09/navigating-the-playground-with-a-child-who-seems-too-physical-shy-huggy-or-bossy/ elevating child care Sat, 21 Oct 2023 19:22:55 +0000 hourly 1 By: SB https://www.janetlansbury.com/2021/09/navigating-the-playground-with-a-child-who-seems-too-physical-shy-huggy-or-bossy/comment-page-1/#comment-132993 Sat, 21 Oct 2023 19:22:55 +0000 https://www.janetlansbury.com/?p=20868#comment-132993 Do you have any advice for parents with toddlers who aren’t walking yet? My son has gotten used to me “walking” him around playgrounds, because I don’t know if he should be crawling on asphalt, wood chips, etc., but I feel like I’m interfering with him exploring by himself. There’s not a soft play area convenient to my home.

]]> By: Courtney Banas https://www.janetlansbury.com/2021/09/navigating-the-playground-with-a-child-who-seems-too-physical-shy-huggy-or-bossy/comment-page-1/#comment-132827 Thu, 22 Jun 2023 01:36:31 +0000 https://www.janetlansbury.com/?p=20868#comment-132827 Thank you for mentioning how all of these are normal behaviors. I need to remind myself to trust my child. He is the “passive one” on the playground, and always pulling me to play with him. I have a feeling I have conditioned him to want me with him, because I have always been a very hands on parent, I love playing with him (I play with kids for a living as a therapist) so it’s very hard for me to sit back when I just love engaging with him. I will try your suggestion to stay back and invite him to stay with me if he wants. My question is about a play date we had today on the playground with 5 or so peers from his nursery school. I wasn’t sure how it was going to go, but he didn’t want to leave my side. His teachers have told me that every time they go to the gym, he sits on the side and watches, sometimes even talking to himself like he’s narrating what’s happening. They said every so often he’ll go down the slide or ride a bike but will go right back to the side line. I thought this would change with time, but after a whole school year (2 mornings a week) , he continued to act the same way. My worry is why hasn’t he figured out how to join in their play yet, or want to. He’s plays wonderfully with his cousins that are his age. Do I need to bolster his self confidence? I thought we had developed a pretty secure attachment but it’s just discouraging when all the other kids are playing just fine and he won’t.

Thank you for your time.

]]> By: Alli https://www.janetlansbury.com/2021/09/navigating-the-playground-with-a-child-who-seems-too-physical-shy-huggy-or-bossy/comment-page-1/#comment-132174 Fri, 05 Aug 2022 21:48:10 +0000 https://www.janetlansbury.com/?p=20868#comment-132174 Thank you so much, I have been actively looking for an article on this subject for a while now. My son just turned two a few weeks ago and is really tall for his age. He has been very physical and rough for the last few months around any other children, even though he seems very excited initially to see other kids and to play. The hard part is he also reacts very physically to me when I intervene. He hit another child recently and the mother got down in his face and yelled “hey!” at him. I’ve just been at a total loss!

]]> By: janet https://www.janetlansbury.com/2021/09/navigating-the-playground-with-a-child-who-seems-too-physical-shy-huggy-or-bossy/comment-page-1/#comment-130701 Tue, 21 Sep 2021 02:23:50 +0000 https://www.janetlansbury.com/?p=20868#comment-130701 In reply to Anick Lamarche.

That’s a tough one! Is this park your only option?

]]> By: Anick Lamarche https://www.janetlansbury.com/2021/09/navigating-the-playground-with-a-child-who-seems-too-physical-shy-huggy-or-bossy/comment-page-1/#comment-130700 Mon, 20 Sep 2021 20:28:39 +0000 https://www.janetlansbury.com/?p=20868#comment-130700 Interestingly enough I have learned a lot in previous posts about my behaviour at the park (yes mine, not my toddler’s). I am a little perplexed with this specific situation and my mother hen does want to come out: We love a park and it is truly an amazing set-up. However, the issue is that since back-to-school it is hovered by teenagers. Teenagers exhibiting behaviours I am not keen on exposing my young one to: swearing, spitting, littering, aggressive play and disrespectful behaviours on the whole.
I see my little ones eyes open and he takes it all in and I am not too sure how to cater to that….talk about it, let it go, stay closer than I normally would, ask the teenagers to give us some play space.
How would you approach this?

]]> By: janet https://www.janetlansbury.com/2021/09/navigating-the-playground-with-a-child-who-seems-too-physical-shy-huggy-or-bossy/comment-page-1/#comment-130697 Sun, 19 Sep 2021 15:51:39 +0000 https://www.janetlansbury.com/?p=20868#comment-130697 In reply to SC.

How exciting you put this into practice immediately and had a great time! Well done! and you are so welcome. Thank you for sharing with me and making my day. x Janet

]]> By: SC https://www.janetlansbury.com/2021/09/navigating-the-playground-with-a-child-who-seems-too-physical-shy-huggy-or-bossy/comment-page-1/#comment-130695 Sun, 19 Sep 2021 06:24:19 +0000 https://www.janetlansbury.com/?p=20868#comment-130695 Thank you so much for this brilliant post. Our 14 month old is climbing but not quite walking and we braved soft play for the first time this weekend (listened to the podcast enroute) we were able to sit back and enjoy him exploring (I definitely would have hung over him) and I watched my husband gently block another child trying to bounce a ball off his head by nipping in and calmly blocking not reacting at all. We all had a great time and I feel like I understand my role so much more clearly. Many thanks for this and the many other wonderful posts.

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