Comments on: 4 Best Ways To Raise Children With Social Intelligence

By: Katherine

Katherine — Wed, 19 Jun 2019 09:32:50 +0000

In reply to Tanya. Janet, please do address this. My daughters are almost 7.

By: Tanya

Tanya — Fri, 16 Sep 2016 02:25:43 +0000

I love all your posts Janet. I’ve become a better parent since reading and absorbing your advice. The one problem I have is this: what if you feel you got it completely wrong with your first child…where to from there. My eldest daughter is 10 and whilst I’ve been mindful of the way I talk and act over the past 12 months, it is clear that my relationship with her has been affected by my parenting style. How do I start to repair the damage I have caused by being a disrespectful parent.

By: Carol

Carol — Thu, 15 Sep 2016 22:09:56 +0000

I use this technique often in my program, and i am getting better at it as time goes on. I currently have a taker of things and it can make for a rough morning, however, I am hopeful with time and patience he will move past this and things will be peaceful again.

By: Kate

Kate — Sun, 23 Aug 2015 12:44:07 +0000

this is a great article! I am trying hard to figure out how to handle my 15 month son who has become a toy taker which serves him well in his daycare environment with a couple bigger boys but can sometimes be rough with my friends babies who are younger. I am not sure how to intervene without having to interrupt his play time constantly…

By: janet

janet — Tue, 03 Feb 2015 00:44:43 +0000

In reply to Mary. Hi Mary! Acknowledging definitely helps but, to be honest, I believe they were calm because neither I nor the parents get anxious in these situations. We try to take off our adult lenses and see a process, rather than a problem that needs to be fixed. Children sense our anxiety and tend to feed off of it.

By: Mary

Mary — Tue, 03 Feb 2015 00:11:16 +0000

Hi Janet,

I just wanted to thank you for sharing the video of the toddlers and the blue box. Amazing how calm that interaction was. I assume it’s because both the girls’ feelings were acknowledged?

By: Kathleen

Kathleen — Wed, 21 Jan 2015 16:18:05 +0000

At what age do children become attached to preschool friends? I ask because we are planning to move my almost 3yr old to a new school next month (the school allows more fredom of exploration and more outdoor time than her current school). She has been at her current school for 7 months – she gets along with the other children but doesn’t really have a ‘best’ friend. The majority of the students in her new class will be turning 4 before the fall and will be moving onto the next room. Does a child at this age become very attached such that this might cause her significant distress? To-date she has been a fairly easy going/friendly child – I’m worried about interferring with her social connections but do think a less structured environment will allow her to follow her own interests. I’d appreciate any thoughts you have on this.

By: Tina

Tina — Wed, 02 Apr 2014 14:57:22 +0000

Hi Janet,

Excellent article. Thank you! I have just come across RIE and my LO is already 3.5 years. We’re noticing an increasing amount of anti-social behaviour such as: not wanting to play with the other kids at day care or when we’re at a park, getting upset if a kid sits next to him at the lunch table, crying if someone takes something from him (even if he’s not holding it or using it), “shutting down” if he doesn’t want to do something, being too shy or embarrassed to address when he hurts another kid, and telling us that none of the kids want to play with him.

We feel like his perception is that the other kids are mean, but he says equally mean things to the other kids, too, and he doesn’t want to engage with them. At home he’s a totally different person and all he wants to do is play (as long as it’s what he wants to do). We’re at a loss for how to help him. Both my husband and I have had social issues and we fear that he will have the same. We’re in the process of seeking out play therapy, but do you have any ideas of what we could do at home? I think a lot of it has to do with how he’s interpreting the peer rejection and the behaviours that he’s exhibiting towards the other kids.

Thank you so much for your help.

By: Ideageorge

Ideageorge — Mon, 28 Jan 2013 04:48:05 +0000

I love how the woman connected with the girl’s fear as her foot got stuck. Also, she was very tuned in to the dialogue between the two toddlers.

By: Clare Caro

Clare Caro — Sun, 27 Jan 2013 22:04:00 +0000

A great article Janet, thank you.