You say “I’m up for pajama days, too” and I’d like to, but I know if do that, with my 3.5 yo, the next day he’ll want the same. It was like that for months when he was 2, until I found you, and I set a clear boundary “you need to be dressed before you go downstairs” (or he’d spend days and days wearing pyjamas only).

At 3.5 yo, I can still get him dressed against his will (rare, but it happened this morning). The problem now is he can take his clothes off, and I can’t stop him from going downstairs. There’s also a 16mo that just started walking, who needs to be dressed fed. I decided to let him be, but I explained he couldn’t eat until he was dressed. At 9:30, almost two hours later, and after spending a few minutes focused on him, I realised the 16mo needed a nappy change. At this point he declared he wanted to get dressed, and I should do that before changing sister’s nappy. I acquiesced on the condition that there was no mucking around.

All went well after that. I don’t think I was harsh, I was mostly unruffled (except a bit before having my own breakfast), but I wonder, should I have done something different, been clearer on some aspect?