Thank you!

I’d like to know about this, too.

This is very similar to my 3 year old son, everything but the sleep. It has become worse in the past 6 months since he turned 3.
I am very interested to know of some strategies to help him become more confident. It makes you so sad to see their resolve and resilience disappear

I was wondering if there’s an age where you teach the child to finish tasks?

I find myself often not being able to deeply focus and engage into something, even if it’s something I find interesting or that matters to me. It’s like I don’t have the patience.

Is there a way to avoid this with children?
If your child usually doesn’t finish works, is this a reason to worry?

Dear Cindy,

Just copy the bullet points from the Facebook article, and paste them onto a new Word Document that you can alter as you see fit. Then just print it out for your staff members…simple!

Eileen

Your #1 hint is to always help when the child asks for help. My struggle is with my 3-year-old son, who wants me to help him constantly. I adore him, but he seems to need me continually, whether to play games with him, walk him to our bathroom when he needs to go, participate in art projects with him, read to/with him, talk (exclusively) with him during meals, pay close attention to every crayon stroke when he is drawing, etc. He likes to help me do everything – make dinner, fold laundry, type on the computer, whatever. He is a cheerful child (by and large), but I can’t seem to get him to do things on his own, even when I am nearby, other than for a very few minutes, very occasionally. (He can’t even sleep without me – after he goes to sleep, he wakes up every few hours and calls for me.) Perhaps we overstimulated him as a baby (though we didn’t have a mobile, we didn’t get into a habit of leaving him alone)? We now have him going 5 mornings a week to a Montessori program, which he is enjoying, but we frankly did it more for me just so I could get a little time to breathe – this summer I thought I was going to go out of my mind. Do you have any suggestions on moving him towards a bit more independent play? Or do we just wait it out, knowing that it well eventually happen?

Thanks so much – I have recently appreciated your posts about dealing with issues briefly and matter-of-factly and moving on – it has been very helpful, practical advice.

Interesting, Laura!