Comments on: In Times of Transition, Our Children Need to Feel Our Love (6 Ways to Help) https://www.janetlansbury.com/2015/08/in-times-of-transition-our-children-need-to-feel-our-love-6-ways-to-help/ elevating child care Tue, 26 Sep 2023 03:21:52 +0000 hourly 1 By: Alee https://www.janetlansbury.com/2015/08/in-times-of-transition-our-children-need-to-feel-our-love-6-ways-to-help/comment-page-1/#comment-132946 Tue, 26 Sep 2023 03:21:52 +0000 http://www.janetlansbury.com/?p=15724#comment-132946 We have recently (2 months ago) introduced a baby brother (Sullivan) to my 4 year old son (Mason). Prior to Sully’s arrival we had spoken about all the fun/uncomfortable events for Mason to expect when the baby arrived, so in theory he was ready. The actual event hit ME like a tonne of bricks (emotionally and mostly because I grieved the time Mason and I had spent together prior to my Sully’s arrival) so I can’t even imagine how it affected Mason. If I could only acknowledge my own feelings the way I acknowledge Mason’s then I might be more helpful to him but I think half of his problem is feeling my (as put in articles and podcasts) “rumblings” and me spending too much time trying to fix his feelings. HELP!

]]> By: Amanda https://www.janetlansbury.com/2015/08/in-times-of-transition-our-children-need-to-feel-our-love-6-ways-to-help/comment-page-1/#comment-131162 Sun, 06 Feb 2022 21:37:57 +0000 http://www.janetlansbury.com/?p=15724#comment-131162 In reply to janet.

He doesn’t let anyone go near his sister. He says things like: you can’t hold her, only me, mommy and daddy can, or you can’t take a picture of her. It seems like he is very protective. But it feels like too much for me

]]> By: janet https://www.janetlansbury.com/2015/08/in-times-of-transition-our-children-need-to-feel-our-love-6-ways-to-help/comment-page-1/#comment-131161 Sat, 05 Feb 2022 23:09:49 +0000 http://www.janetlansbury.com/?p=15724#comment-131161 In reply to Amanda.

Sorry, I’m not sure I understand your question. Can you please clarify?

]]> By: Amanda https://www.janetlansbury.com/2015/08/in-times-of-transition-our-children-need-to-feel-our-love-6-ways-to-help/comment-page-1/#comment-131159 Sat, 05 Feb 2022 07:17:14 +0000 http://www.janetlansbury.com/?p=15724#comment-131159 My 3 years old adores her baby sister (looking after her, concern when she’s crying, kisses, reads books to) but no one is allowed to touch her, push her pushchair except us. He gets upset when grandma wants to hold her. Is this behaviour something we need to worry about?

]]> By: PAOLA REYNOSO CANO https://www.janetlansbury.com/2015/08/in-times-of-transition-our-children-need-to-feel-our-love-6-ways-to-help/comment-page-1/#comment-127897 Mon, 19 Aug 2019 19:22:48 +0000 http://www.janetlansbury.com/?p=15724#comment-127897 Hi! is it ok also to informo our kids when we are upset or angry about somthing they did or say, and that we need some time to regain unruffledeness? is it ok to be a bit serious if we cant help it?

]]> By: Verona https://www.janetlansbury.com/2015/08/in-times-of-transition-our-children-need-to-feel-our-love-6-ways-to-help/comment-page-1/#comment-126469 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 04:27:06 +0000 http://www.janetlansbury.com/?p=15724#comment-126469 Janet Lansbury – Elevating Child Care thank you, I so needed this! We’re gutted to be loosing our adored childcarer in a couple of weeks, so this is a great steer to prepare our daughter (& selves) for the transition!
How far in advance would it be recommended to let a child know about a change? (Child is 2yrs, 4 months)

]]> By: D https://www.janetlansbury.com/2015/08/in-times-of-transition-our-children-need-to-feel-our-love-6-ways-to-help/comment-page-1/#comment-126468 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 03:44:22 +0000 http://www.janetlansbury.com/?p=15724#comment-126468 This is a wonderful story, but I wish it were that easy to implement. With a newborn in the house, it’s hard to give my toddler more 1:1 time than I’m already giving him. He gets lots of 1:1 time from my husband and our long-term nanny, but still has all-out screaming sessions constantly, with any little frustration that he encounters. Being sleep deprived makes it extremely hard to be patient with him, especially during times when the baby is crying and my toddler is screaming or having a tantrum. Everyone makes it sound so easy- but where do I find even more time, when I barely have time to feed myself or shower? And when I return to work full-time in a few weeks it will be even more challenging.

]]> By: Sahar https://www.janetlansbury.com/2015/08/in-times-of-transition-our-children-need-to-feel-our-love-6-ways-to-help/comment-page-1/#comment-126465 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 00:12:29 +0000 http://www.janetlansbury.com/?p=15724#comment-126465 Amazing. What a beautiful, uplifting story

]]> By: Chandra https://www.janetlansbury.com/2015/08/in-times-of-transition-our-children-need-to-feel-our-love-6-ways-to-help/comment-page-1/#comment-126464 Mon, 13 Aug 2018 23:12:03 +0000 http://www.janetlansbury.com/?p=15724#comment-126464 Thanks so much for sharing. Any advice for going through something similar with younger children who can’t communicate how they’re feeling? My 27-month old son has had a hard time since his brother was born 6 months ago. Fortunately, he loves his little brother, but he’s struggling with the decrease in attention and tends to take it out on me (“go away, mama”). What do you do when they can’t clearly express how they’re feeling and attempts to explain or make them feel better seem to fail?

]]> By: Supporting Children During Life Transitions - Tiny Trees https://www.janetlansbury.com/2015/08/in-times-of-transition-our-children-need-to-feel-our-love-6-ways-to-help/comment-page-1/#comment-125934 Tue, 20 Mar 2018 18:55:31 +0000 http://www.janetlansbury.com/?p=15724#comment-125934 […] From “In Times of Transition, Our Children Need to Feel Our Love (6 Ways to Help)“: -Accept all feelings with openness and curiosity. -Don’t let boundaries and routines slide. -Give bountiful, genuine affection without ‘hugging your child’s feelings away.’ -Set aside one-on-one time. -Inform children to the fullest extent possible. -Be patient. ~Janet Lansbury […]

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