Comments on: Worn Down by a Toddler’s Screams, Tests, and Demands

By: Wiwi

Wiwi — Sat, 25 Nov 2023 11:49:35 +0000

Thank you Janet for this wonderful article. It comes exactly at the right time. The parent sending this message could have been me.
And to the parent: I need a reminder at least once a week. If I stop reading Janet’s posts or any other kind of literature about how I want to raise my child, I fall into old patterns. It’s disturbing how fast that happens, even after 2,5 years of practice.

By: vic

vic — Mon, 06 Mar 2023 16:16:23 +0000

In reply to Lily. Given that your spelling and grammar are off, I can only assume you are not really a parent and just came here to troll. Good job, now move on and let the real parents take of their kids in a more respectable way. You do not belong on this site.

By: Kathleen

Kathleen — Mon, 18 Jul 2022 17:51:18 +0000

Hi Janet,

Thank you so much for your podcast, it has been so helpful! I am seeing some of the EXACT same behaviors from my 14 month old ad mentioned in this podcast. I love the idea of clear boundaries but am curious if I should handle things in the same way as you mentioned above with a child who is a little over one (much younger than 2.5)?

I guess sometimes I worry that if I set boundaries “too early” I am somehow sending him messages of rejection. And yet, I am exhausted from being constantly tugged on and whined for and pulled around all day long. My guy has a VERY big personality and lots of feelings.

Any insight you’d be able to share would be so helpful! 🙂

Thank you!!

By: Heather

Heather — Thu, 12 May 2022 18:12:25 +0000

Hi! My two year old screams and gets upset when she doesn’t get what she wants or we don’t understand what she wants . Or if we try to change a diaper and she doesn’t want to etc etc. Shes not talking yet so this compounds everything I know. I’m not understanding how and what we are supposed to do to help her stop this behaviour. I have a 6month old as well and older children . So the trouble comes with the consistency. My older ones watch her while I’m dealing with the baby at times and what is easier for me is not so easy for a teenager to deal with. Any help ? I’m at a loss .

By: janet

janet — Wed, 20 Apr 2022 18:34:21 +0000

In reply to Tiff C..

Generally, yes, my advice would be the same. Be clear about your boundaries, allow and even encourage your child to vent feelings and stress. Be aware of their perspective — what it feels like to be them so you can be more empathic and less reactive. Do your best to create a safe, healing environment.

What do you imagine might be different with a neurodivergent child?

By: Tiff C.

Tiff C. — Wed, 20 Apr 2022 17:57:57 +0000

What do you suggest if child has Sensory Processing , ADHD, or Autism Spectrum? Same advice?

By: janet

janet — Fri, 13 Aug 2021 01:41:59 +0000

In reply to Ali. Yes, it's so challenging, but I believe in you!

By: Ali

Ali — Fri, 13 Aug 2021 00:16:20 +0000

In reply to janet. This article really helped me have a good understanding of how to go about things differently with my son. He’s definitely been testing me, and I’m currently 34 weeks pregnant. So it’s very hard to try to compose myself.But for all of our sakes I’m going to try my best to change and accept.

By: Sanket Doshi

Sanket Doshi — Sun, 13 Jun 2021 09:05:36 +0000

Good article. I have the same problems with my 2YO boy. Came here for a solution and the take away is there no clear cut solution. Was hoping for a magic trick that would work for all at the end even though i knew there isn’t any after reading almost every article of the web.
I sometimes read these articles just to not make me feel alone. Almost evey parent i meet have a child who is calm. I feel bad sometimes that i never got an average child that behaves like a good little cute baby that makes you want to have babies in the first place.

By: janet

janet — Tue, 10 Nov 2020 16:47:12 +0000

In reply to JOANNA S.. I do! You've got this! Thanks for your kind words. My advice would be to let go of worrying about the rest of the family. It's okay if others do things differently. Our power is ourselves. Thanks again!