Hi Jetta! it’s very normal for your grandchild to have this response at the end of his busy day at daycare. He’s releasing his stress with his trusted grandmother and that’s a good thing. So what you’re doing is perfect — allowing and acknowledging his feelings, while keeping him safe in his behavior.

Hi Jetta! it’s very normal for your grandchildchild to have this response at the end of his busy day at daycare. He’s releasing his stress with his trusted grandmother and that’s a good thing. So what you’re doing is perfect — allowing and acknowledging his feelings, while keeping him safe in his behavior.

Dear Marian,
Your stories and comments are always the highlight of my day. Thanks for all your wonderful support and encouragement. This recent experience is a big win for your whole family! 🙂 Thanks again for sharing with me!
xo,
Janet

Thanks, Courtney. A sip of tea in itself may be a “want,” but self-care on the whole is a need. We will obviously put our wants and needs second to our newborn’s the majority of the time. Young children need an incredible amount of care. But as their loving parents and leaders, children need us to be in charge of prioritizing ourselves every once in awhile. They can’t be the ones to decide to give us a break for sip of tea or water. We must take one ourselves, so that we don’t become angry, resentful, unhappy parents.

I calmly stuck to my No decision for my daughter. She threw a fit and my husband and I were calm, finally, because we both study you: we knew we were loving her.

Well, I could hear in the tone of her cry that she was over the problem with my decision and then went upstairs for some throw pillows and sat at the top of the stairs with one under her and one on her lap; her arms crossed and chin in arms with angry look.

She wanted me to see her and then her Dad. Wow, we said, you are angry! Then, after this a bit, she had her father do the same with her in the living room and I pointed out how they were both mad. She loved this. I said I wanted to remember to do that the next time I am mad (because I am only human so I am sure I will get mad again) (but I am working working working on not being immature about it: I get to copy my little teacher : )

We all moved through the issue and she went off to play. Thank you for teaching me to be present, not triggered, and what love looks like to a child. I want my girl strong : )

Well said, Maureen, and it’s my absolute pleasure. Sounds like you’ve got this!