Comments on: How to Help a Frustrated Child

By: Shifra

Shifra — Wed, 06 Dec 2023 23:18:40 +0000

Thank you Janet!
I’ve been listening to your podcasts and learning so much from them!!
I also ought and read your book “No bad kids”.
I would like to read your other book, or better listen to it, so I followed the link above where you wrote we can get the book for free on Audible, but it says it costs £7.99.
Is there a way to get it for free pls?
Thanks a lot!!
Shifra

By: Desiree

Desiree — Sun, 21 Mar 2021 04:01:40 +0000

In reply to Lana. Lana I am experiencing this now with my 18 month old, it is a natural time for a developmental “leap” as described in the book/app called the Wonder Weeks. It affects everything from behavior, to sleep patterns, it can also be a period of physical growth, etc.

By: janet

janet — Thu, 02 Apr 2020 16:37:59 +0000

In reply to Lana.

Hi Lana – Thank you for your kind words. I recommend that you continue to trust your granddaughter. This is likely a temporary phase of some kind that she will pass through. Could it be that she’s a little unsettled and finding it harder to concentrate at this unusual and tense time in our world? If so, I can definitely relate to her. 🙂 It can also be internal/development shifts that she is experiencing. Again, I would trust and let her do as she does. Take care.

By: Lana

Lana — Thu, 02 Apr 2020 09:54:14 +0000

I am a grandmother of a wonderful little 18 month old girl. I am really learning a lot from you as I look after her when parents work . She is a very curious & active child but right now she seems to go from 1 activity to the next very quickly were 2 months ago she would stay with something a lot longer, is this normal in their development. Thank you for your amazing insights.
Yours truly Lana

By: Siobhan

Siobhan — Wed, 30 Oct 2019 18:16:25 +0000

I would also love some input on the habit of lashing out. I am a caregiver. I fully respect that feeling frustrated or angry is a big feeling to handle. I love the concept of not needing to solve anything, but just allowing the feelings to happen. I’m even learning to do this more as an adult rather than burying emotions. But hitting people or slamming doors or throwing things are not appropriate, so how do I allow the child to be in the moment but also correct these behaviours?

By: Mandy

Mandy — Mon, 25 Mar 2019 19:45:44 +0000

Thank you so much for all you do. We have been so encouraged and found great help in parenting through so much of what you’ve written. I understand the concept above and understand from previous writings the suggestions of “I won’t let you throw that” to curtail throwing things or even them hitting you, but our little guy’s anger comes out at himself and, in his frustration or anger, he will hit or bite himself until he’s in hysterics over it. How would you handle a situation that results in self harm like that? It breaks our heart to see him do that, but we have no idea how to stop it and, in the moment, he doesn’t want any sort of comfort from us or really anything to do with us when he’s in the upset place. It makes me wonder if somehow we’re doing something wrong to make him feel like he has to react that way. Thanks so much again for all of your help and advice.

By: Anne Marie Niglio

Anne Marie Niglio — Sat, 20 Oct 2018 19:21:23 +0000

I love this podcast & article on helping frustrated toddlers. I just came across your website from a homeschool fb post. I have 5 kids my youngest is 2 and ironically my hardest child by far. There is a lot of screaming in our house 🙁
How do I develop better patience & model calm after doing it so poorly so many times?! I just subscribed & hopefully will be inspired. Thanks!

By: Lea

Lea — Sun, 22 Apr 2018 03:26:00 +0000

I love all of this and it makes so much sense when I read it here but in the moment, when my almost 4 year old is feeling all his feelings by throwing or screaming or hitting or name calling I am having a hard time. I know he’s still young but he’s smart and I feel like he’s developing a habit of lashing out when upset. I don’t think that’s a healthy response and I don’t want it to become how he reacts to or processes stress as he gets older. What are good suggestions to help a child express anger frustration or stress?