Comments on: Uniquely Me – 6 Ways To Help Our Children Know (And Love) Themselves

By: NorthStarMama

NorthStarMama — Mon, 31 Jul 2023 01:42:13 +0000

Love this article! I find accepting the emotions but not necessarily the behavior caused by the emotions to be a place I struggle. Anger was “a sin” in my home growing up and so whenever I was angry as a child I felt “bad “. I still do feel that somewhere. I’m determined that won’t be my children’s reality but I often find myself getting upset over their anger especially when it turns to hitting each other for example or biting. So much to learn!

By: Beth

Beth — Sat, 24 Jul 2021 15:45:47 +0000

This really resonated with me:

If a child is given a prize for the amount of books he finishes, it can make him distrust his love of reading. “Why am I being bribed to read? It must not be fun.”

I was a voracious reader as a child and my 9 year old says it’s, “not her thing”. I realized that I’m always trying to get her to read but she rarely sees me enjoying an actual book since I read so much on my computer or my phone. It’s time to get back to the basics and being an example but also allowing for her to enjoy, or not enjoy, her own activities!

By: Ruth Mason

Ruth Mason — Sat, 24 Jul 2021 09:48:31 +0000

I see I’ve read this before, but it felt new! What you write is wonderful
And I do agree with all of it. But after raising my three pretty much in line w these ideas, (but maybe with an over emphasis on trying to build their self esteem and sense of security,) I’ve come to the conclusion that what I’ve read about children being more affected by their parent׳s own self esteem is true. Curious about your thoughts.

By: Ruth Mason

Ruth Mason — Sat, 24 Jul 2021 09:43:16 +0000

In reply to Antonella. Hi Antonella, I don’t know if Janet’s wonderful books are available in Spanish but one of the RIE books has been translated — look in the RIE web site. Also I believe there are some writings in Spanish by Pikler people. Try google.

By: Antonella

Antonella — Wed, 24 Jun 2020 03:34:06 +0000

Hello! I’m from Argentina. Is there any way to buy your books in spanish lenguage? Thanks a lot!!

By: Rosie

Rosie — Tue, 31 Dec 2019 05:40:07 +0000

In reply to Leeloo.

Every time my son asks to watch a show; I return it with “why don’t you go get a book and let’s read together!”

Now both my boys are book readers!

I guess it’s still a reward…but it’s good for both of us.

By: Leeloo

Leeloo — Mon, 29 Jul 2019 15:28:30 +0000

what do you do if a toddler has become accustomed to “rewards” and now demands ipad time every time he was helpful? Does the book you reference describe solutions once someone blindly walked down this path already?

By: Heather

Heather — Fri, 26 Jul 2019 22:43:00 +0000

This is a great article and so helpful. I have a question. My niece is really great at doing things her way. She’s 5, she’s confident and never afraid to ask for something. When she doesn’t get her way, or gets frustrated, excited, she is screaming very loudly. Even normal talking is like yelling. It’s very loud. Any suggestions how you let them feel all the feelings but also direct them to use a talking voice, etc? Or is it fine to always yell/speak loudly and it is what it is? Also, No matter what, she’s always going to be the squeaky wheel that gets the oil if that makes sense. If she fights with my son, even if she starts it by hitting, everyone is always going to think it’s the other kid because she’s the loudest and yells or cries? I need help!

By: Claudia Patricia

Claudia Patricia — Thu, 28 Jul 2016 01:34:36 +0000

Hi Janet! Loved this post. Thank you! What do you think of the environment- house rules? We are living in Denmark and I find it is very hard to find an RIE approach..at the daycare, among parents. What would you do?

By: janet

janet — Mon, 25 Jul 2016 21:28:59 +0000

In reply to Ruth Mason. Thank you, Ruth! I'm honored that you like it.