I think the pressure comes from getting them ready for school. In the UK they have to be using the toilet independently before they start school and teachers will not help them at all. Some may suggest homeschooling instead but not every family can financially afford to do this.

I’m not sure when this comment was made, but just in case anyone else is nervous about this, my son didn’t start using the toilet regularly until he was almost 5. We tried a few times but he’d continue having accidents and pushing back so we backed off.
Then just before his birthday he went out on a little boys outing with his dad and asked to use the potty twice. After that we told him he was going to wear underwear and he needed to go to the potty like he had when he was out with dad. That was about 8 months ago, and since then he’s had maybe 2 accidents.

I see so many comments about almost 5 year olds with this issue but never hear any success stories! We are in the same boat with no pooping on the potty and the ped suggested back to diapers after a week of withholding after we took them away. Seems backwards and I’m scared she’ll never get it on her own. Please share any success you’ve had!

I’ve seen so many comments on many similar posts about almost 5 year olds with this issue, but never know if there was any success! Has anyone has success with this with a child this old? We are struggling here with not pooping in the potty and and our ped advised going back to diapers to avoid the withholding behavior we’ve had this week when we cut out the diapers. It seems like a backwards move but with so much conflicting advice out there, I’m not confident.

Please never hit your child. The parents that make you comments about this are the ones who need to be told not to hit their kids.
Your 2 yo hasn’t developed her frontal brain which is in control of impulse. When she throw something you can tell her it’s ok to be angry but you won’t allow her to throw things. With time she will develop impulse control and your relationship wound be damaged.

Bridget, I think at 5 I would let him have total control of changing himself. You can be supportive and gentle but not change him anymore.

Please answer this question for me. I have a 9 year old who still wets the bed. She has had a lot of uti’s and under the care of a pediatric urologist. She has under gone test for various conditions and no doctor has come up for a reason for night wetting. She is embarrassed about it and they have basically told her , it’s up to her to learn how to wake up herself when she needs to go at night. I think there is something else going on.

Yes, why not? EC is about reading babies’ body language and responding proactively to their need to eliminate. No different than offering milk at the first hunger cues, rather than waiting for crying.

Can you change schools? Sounds quite inflexible and maybe not fully appreciative of the fact that children are diverse, have different developmental stages, needs etc. i get that it’s not convenient practically, but shaming and forcing is hardly great for the kid’s self esteem. This coming from a start, stop, flat out refuser 3 year old’s mom. I’m in the trenches, but won’t shame her. But her school said, sometimes it just clicks for the kids.